What are you saying to yourself? Are you saying kind things? Awful things? Personally, I was so used to the loop of bad news replaying in my head every single day that I stopped noticing how mean I was to myself. Thoughts such as "I can't do it", to "I'm never going to be good enough" often play in my head for no reason. Why? Unfortunately, that's the way that my brain has been wired for almost 23 years! I'm doing a challenge to read 20 different books in 2019, I stumbled upon "Preach to Yourself" by Hayley Morgan and I can honestly say that it's been the most life changing book I've ever read (up to now, LOL)! We have to stop the bad news that replay in our minds every single day by putting truth over them! What does God say in His living word about what you're saying to yourself? Even what you're saying or thinking about others? Allow God to transform you by renewing your mind! I know well that it's going to be a life long process, but it's time to fully believe in His word and to stop doubting!
This might be more on the personal side, but I hope that this will encourage you to open up to God about the areas in your life where you're telling lies to yourself. My prayer is that you let Him in and allow His truth to transform you. Once I finished reading the book, I started a document that listed all the nasty things I was saying to myself every single day, and I looked up scripture that says the opposite. Now, when I catch myself pondering on the bad news; I look at my document (yes, I have a physical copy in my purse and a digital one in my phone).